This is just a quick note. Something I’ve recently noticed & it made me sad.
So you know how most male friends of mine fade off because of their insecure & controlling girlfriends/wives? Even though I’m perfectly happy in my own relationship? And how it makes me feel like shit because my intentions are good?
Okay, so there was this mutual female friend of ours (let’s call her Jenny). She used to date one of my friends. This was like 20 years ago & since then, they’ve both married others, had kids, etc. But, thanks to the joys of Facebook, we were all friends.
And by “friends,” I mean connected on Facebook. But I think you get that.
That is until I noticed something the other day. Friend’s controlling wife made him unfriend Jenny. I’m sure she had her reasons, however unrealistic they may be. But to me, it hurt to see it happen to someone else. Even though I’m not Jenny, I’ve been there & I know that pain. She is happily married & is probably 1000 miles away. She’s not a threat, she’s not encroaching on this guy, nothing of the sort.
I know, I know. I’ve said this before. I don’t mean to beat a dead horse. You’d think I’d be okay by now but it still stings. I’m trying to work on realizing that it’s not about me or Jenny or what we’re doing or whatever else. I know this says more about the wife than anything.
Sigh. Someday, I’ll be unfazed.
I’m working on this…