If you’ve been with me for a good amount of time, you know how I feel about manipulation, deception, & the mental games people play. In short, I don’t do it. I refuse to give in or to be controlled by what they want. It’s horseshit, right?
So in the midst of all of that, I find people who are honest like a cool drink of water on a hot summer day. And just a little side note because I run into this a lot: honesty =/= tactless. You can be honest & not be a dick about it. One of my besties, LH, has mastered this.
There was a situation about a month ago when I was really upset. I was hurt & I didn’t feel important to my friends. Seeing how she is one of my friends, I was honest & voiced my concerns. She respectfully listened & we talked it out. Because I chose to be honest with her, she was honest with me. We realized there was miscommunication at the heart of it & vowed to correct it so it wouldn’t happen again. And guess what? It hasn’t. We both addressed the situation & happily moved on. It was awesome lol.
We both think eerily similar (#twinsies) which helps with communicating our feelings. But even if we didn’t, the important factor here is that you need to be honest with yourself & with them. If a relationship doesn’t serve you anymore, release it. It was only meant to help you during that season of your life & to guide you to where you are now. Thank the universe for the lesson & move on. I’m not saying it’ll be easy but it’s definitely worth it. And with each decision you make for YOUR benefit, it gets easier & easier.
LH & I have both been in this honesty phase of our lives. I find myself evaluating all areas of my life & asking myself if this is still beneficial to me. My standard is definitely higher than what it was before. Why? Because I’m finally being honest with myself. I don’t have time or energy to deal with half-assery (lol) anymore. If I was in my early 20s, I could see it. But in my mid-30s? No. I know what I value & that ain’t it.
CHALLENGE: Be honest with yourself. Like REALLY honest. Are you happy in your relationship or is it just convenient? Do you like your job or does it pay the bills? Are your friends faithful or do they work out for now? You deserve more. You deserve the best. Do an internal check to see what’s & who’s important to you. Kindly eliminate the rest. Bask in your freedom & happiness. 🙂